How To Run With Your Significant Other

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Running with your boyfriend, spouse, or partner—can not only improve fitness motivation but can further improve your relationship.

After all, the couples that work out together stay together.

Working out is also great to work things out; no pun intended.

If you’ve ever considered running with your significant other, then you know it’s actually easier said than done.

The only exception is if  both of you have the same fitness level and training goals, which is rarely the case

In fact, when done poorly, pairing up with your lover can also result in serious trouble and likely compromise your training as well as your relationship.

Fret no more. In today’s post, I’ll share a few measures to help you enjoy running with your partner or anyone’s loved one

Sounds lovely?

Let’s lace up and dig in.

Different Speeds

This is self-evident.

Running alone makes you a master of your own pace and speed. But when you train with someone else, you’ll need to pay attention to their running speed, especially if you’re the faster, better-conditioned, runner.

If you’re a marathoner runner, but your partner just now starting to run, they’ll have trouble keeping up with you consistently.

Decide Beforehand

Before you head out of the door, decide in advance your running distance, duration, pace, and which route. Leave nothing for surprises.

Is it an easy 20 minutes run? Or are you looking to push the pace?

This is especially the case when you different speeds/distances planned.

Pick The Right Pace

Since runners are not created equal, you should choose a pace that’s easy for both of you. Especially the beginner.

For example, if you have run for many years but your spouse is a complete beginner, your recovery easy 3 miles might be their weekly hard session.

As a rule, the faster runner doesn’t get to choose the pace when you run together. Instead, the slower run is in charge.

Be Patient

Just like in a relationship, patience is key for success, especially when it comes to running with someone else.

If your partner is struggling with that last lap or mile, don’t tease them about how slow or out of shape they are. Nobody likes a snarky partner.

Pay attention to your partner’s fitness level, comfort, injuries, or any other issues. Respect them where they are at and meet them. Remember that you used to be a beginner yourself.

Again, this is especially the case if you’re the faster runner. You’ll need to be really patient as you work on finding the sweet spot when it comes to a pace that works well for you as a couple.

Don’t Be A Preacher

Sure, running with a partner can be a great way to log in the miles while spending quality time together, but it’s only possible if both parties want to run together.

If your spouse or girlfriend isn’t a runner (and not interested in the sport, which is ok), then don’t try to force him/her into running.

Different people different strokes. Be willing to accept that.

Is Running Together A Date

But what if someone you’re interested in has invited you to run?

When it’s the case, consider the following before running together:

  • Bring body wipes and a change of clothing, especially if you were planning on having a drink or food post-run.
  • Pick a date the suits both of you
  • Decide on pace and whether music is allowed.
  • Don’t worry about sweating—it is expected.
  • Decide where to go next in advance so you won’t fumble around sweaty and tired.


There you have it. If you’re planning to run with your significant other and would love to make the most out of it, today’s guidelines should get you started on the right foot.

Please feel free to leave your comments and questions in the section below.

In the meantime, thank you for dropping by.

Keep training strong.

David D.